Teaching your dog to stay is a fundamental skill that goes beyond dog sports like AKC Rally or Obedience—it’s essential for everyday obedience and good manners. Imagine effortlessly grooming your pup, answering the door, or unloading groceries without your dog breaking position. Many owners struggle with this, but with patience and these proven steps, your dog can master the stay command reliably.
A solid stay makes life easier, especially when combined with basic cues like sit or down. For related training tips, check out how to stop puppies from jumping up on everyone.
Understanding Stay vs. Wait
The stay command requires your dog to hold a position—sit, down, or stand—until you release them, no matter the duration. Unlike “wait,” which signals a brief pause, stay demands commitment, even if you’re away briefly. Use a consistent release word like “okay,” “free,” or “release” to signal the end. Avoid common words like “okay” in casual talk to prevent confusion.
This release cue works with any behavior, turning a simple sit into an automatic stay. Consistency builds reliability, ensuring your dog knows the behavior ends only on your command.
Teaching the Release Word First
Start small to teach the release effectively. Begin in a quiet space with minimal distractions.
- Cue your dog to sit or lie down.
- Wait one second, then offer a treat while saying your release word calmly.
- Encourage movement—pat your legs or step back—to prompt them up.
- Praise lavishly when they move.
Repeat until your dog anticipates freedom only after the release. This foundation prevents self-releasing and sets up success.
Boerboel puppy sitting in profile in the backyard
Building Duration in the Stay Command
Once the release is solid, introduce “stay” using the three Ds: duration, distance, and distraction. Focus on duration first while staying close and distraction-free.
- Cue sit or down, then extend your hand like a stop sign and say “stay.”
- Wait 1-2 seconds, treat calmly, then release.
- Gradually increase time—add seconds incrementally.
- At 10+ seconds, treat intermittently during the stay, repeating the cue and signal.
Reward the stay, not the release, to keep it engaging. Use a clicker? Mark during the stay only. For more obedience basics, see how to get your dog to walk off leash.
Avoid rushing; short successes beat failures. Dogs find stay boring, so high-value treats maintain focus.
Troubleshooting Common Stay Issues
Watch your body language—movement can lure breaks. Dogs follow you instinctively, so stay still.
If they break early, don’t punish. Reset by repeating cues and reducing difficulty. Analyze: Did you advance too fast or move enticingly?
Patience prevents frustration. Consistent practice in low-distraction areas builds confidence.
Boxer puppy standing on top of a wood crate outdoors with flowers in the background
Introducing Distractions and Distance
Master 30-second stays before distractions. Start mild—clap hands—then progress to tossing a ball. Reduce duration initially, rebuilding slowly.
For distance: After distractions succeed,
- Cue stay, step back once, return to treat.
- Release only after returning.
- Increase steps gradually.
Always return before release to reward properly. Combine Ds outdoors or by leaving briefly once proficient.
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With steady progression, your dog achieves a rock-solid stay for any scenario.
Mastering the stay command transforms obedience and safety. Practice daily in short sessions, rewarding generously for a well-mannered companion. Ready for more? Contact Dog Care Story for personalized training advice or enroll in our programs today.
